12 Modern Relationship Problems Experienced Today And How To Prevent Them
In the 90s and 2000s when the concept of finding your partner through social media first came into existence, the idea wasn’t much popular. After all, who knew whether that guy you’re being all cozy with on Facebook isn’t a psychopath? But with time, virtual romance has become ordinary nowadays. But with its ease and popularity, it’s also brought along its own share of problems. A quick email has replaced a handwritten note (where’s the warmth in that?) and the heart emoji on Whatsapp has replaced so many heartfelt “I love you”s. So, read on and find out what other problems this new era of online dating has created.
We’ve all gone through our fair share of crazy boyfriends/girlfriends, the ones who would threaten to commit suicide because of how-could-you-look-at-that-girl-on-the-road-for-more-than-10-seconds? But now in this digital age, a simple wrong ‘Like’ on your part could unintentionally end your blissful relationship in a matter of minutes. And the power to them who once dared poke anyone on Facebook.
Hurtful, but most of the fights between couples happen on trivial issues instead of something serious. Earlier, when you made a small mistake, and the girlfriend gave a totally unwarranted furious reaction on that, you’d know better than to stick around. But now, she might be being all cool on that chat you two are having, but you never know what she’s actually thinking, do you?
You ask someone what they want in a partner and they’ll list off all sorts of traits, except the two most obvious ones (usually for fear of being judged, and let’s face it, they do get judged)- looks and financial stability. But a little honesty now and then is always appreciated, ain’t it? For all you know, that guy you’re dating and talking to on Facebook ( and still haven’t met) could be the opposite of what you’re looking for. After all, it isn’t that hard to portray a different picture on social media, is it?
Changing for the better is always good. But you change too little, your partner will think you aren’t up to their level, you change too much, you’ll be hoarded by fake admirers. So what’s best, stay true to yourself! Trust me, the right person will love you for that.
Remember when spending time with your partner involved going out on movies, or out to dinner? Now, it’s “Let’s Netflix and Chill” and sadly, that’s entirely literal. Some quality time ends up being in front of a plasma-screen, with both of you tweeting about it and ignoring each other (not ‘quality’ time after all, eh?)
Break-up s used to be such a messy affair earlier. But now it’s so much simpler, simply send a text, and there, you’re done with it! So what’s the problem, you say? Well, a text fails to capture the necessary emotion for such a delicate situation. Same goes about asking someone out. Trust me, your expressions, your voice, everything matters in these situations, not just the words.
Who knew the demand for a little validation of your relationship on Facebook would lead to this full-blown PDA? You don’t post that you’re in relation, your partner thinks you don’t think it to be serious enough. You don’t post that picture of your time together, you don’t value him/her. Ah, the good old days when you saying it’s serious meant it’s serious.
This is how the future generation relationship breakup reasons look like!
Honestly, there’s nothing wrong with a guy getting ready for a date last minute unless they have long hair too (well, then take all the time you want). But careful boys, all sort of needs might crop up at the last-minute. So, better move with a little time on your hands, otherwise, get ready for a big fight (and give up all hopes of winning).
Sometimes the technology which you use itself will try to kill your relationships. But what to do, we have to adjust ourselves to these things.
A “Hey” means they are texting you, yeah, but not that interested to talk, a “Heyyyy”, and you might as well start deciding the wedding menu. After all, we all accept ALL CAPS LOCKS means they’re shouting at you, so why should our repeated letters sit in the corner?
Thus said, this virtual age has hailed in a multitude of dating problems, but it has it’s own benefits too! So, the best approach would be, as Alastor Moody said-“Constant Vigilance!”